Re: Juniors misbehaving at Tournament's
Ken & Alex: yes, adults can be guilty of bad behaviour also, but at this tournament, it was 100% kids. We can also extend some blame to the parents for not exercising proper discipline. We had sufficient challenges already, the “bad” kids aggravated it. It took me 4 days and a bottle of wine to calm down and “come down off the cliff”.
To be fair, most of the kids are well behaved. But most do need to be reminded to keep the noise down, stop running around, and so on, on occasion. This is not the problem. This we can deal with. The bad kids are those that continue running around and making noise after being repeatedly warned. I addressed the entire room before round x about the problem. I even yelled inside the skittles room to keep it down, loud enough I am sure for all to hear for miles around. I stopped several kids running about numerous times, they kept it up. This is the problem. My patience for bad kids is completely exhausted. No more Mr. nice guy. It is painfully obvious to me now that expulsion is mandatory. The enjoyment of others and my sanity must come first.
Some of the bad kids are members of the Mississauga Adult and/or Junior club. They will be dealt with. I have spoken with the kids and adults who attended the junior club on Monday. The club is now closed for Christmas, so the dialogue will continue in January. I have spoken on this often at the junior club, with only limited success. We did move the stronger kids into the quieter side room, so that helped. The younger kids mostly in the noisier larger room, where quiet isn’t the priority. It gives the more serious kids extra incentive to move up to the gold cards and the quiet room. But I would like to see a further reduction in horseplay and noise across the board. Discipline will move up the priority list in 2018.
A group of kids were playing around with the church phone system on Sunday. Somehow they managed to call a church official, which prompted a very irate church official to visit. The number must have been programmed into the phone system, otherwise how would they have reached a church official? Some members of this group have been identified and are members of MCC. We will be talking with them in January. We know some of what happened, but we will explore in more detail in January. If anyone knows of any details or wants to “come clean”, we invite you to email me over the Christmas break. Appropriate disciplinary action will follow in January which may include a suspension from the club. As a result of this phone incident, we cancelled the CYCC qualifier scheduled for January 20th to make peace with the Church. Actions do have consequences.
I had lunch with Gord this week and we discussed solutions for our kids behaviour problem. I suggested 4 possible policy changes for Mississauga Open 2018.
Limit Junior registration to 50% of total. So if we had 100 players, maximum 50 Juniors. I think once Junior participation rate goes above x%, maintaining discipline is harder. I haven’t found anyone else yet that thinks this is a good idea.
Eject Misbehaving Juniors from tournament. Send them packing. This idea has some support. I would refund the entry fee, but others say “no way”. And how many warnings do you give?
Keep a naughty kids list. If you’re on the list, your next entry fee is an extra $20. This idea has possibilities. We could even send it to Santa to add names to his naughty list. Okay, that’s too drastic.
Letters of apology. The bad kids will compose a letter of apology to both the organizers and other players. This is my personal favourite, I even added jokingly that we post them on chesstalk. But a more popular idea appears to be make them read it out loud in person at the tournament. Yikes.
We had our annual club meeting at Mississauga Club on Wednesday. This was a big topic of conversation. We debated a few ideas and thanks to Omar from SCC for attending. He had some good suggestions.
Anyway, I never want a repeat of this past weekend.
Ken & Alex: yes, adults can be guilty of bad behaviour also, but at this tournament, it was 100% kids. We can also extend some blame to the parents for not exercising proper discipline. We had sufficient challenges already, the “bad” kids aggravated it. It took me 4 days and a bottle of wine to calm down and “come down off the cliff”.
To be fair, most of the kids are well behaved. But most do need to be reminded to keep the noise down, stop running around, and so on, on occasion. This is not the problem. This we can deal with. The bad kids are those that continue running around and making noise after being repeatedly warned. I addressed the entire room before round x about the problem. I even yelled inside the skittles room to keep it down, loud enough I am sure for all to hear for miles around. I stopped several kids running about numerous times, they kept it up. This is the problem. My patience for bad kids is completely exhausted. No more Mr. nice guy. It is painfully obvious to me now that expulsion is mandatory. The enjoyment of others and my sanity must come first.
Some of the bad kids are members of the Mississauga Adult and/or Junior club. They will be dealt with. I have spoken with the kids and adults who attended the junior club on Monday. The club is now closed for Christmas, so the dialogue will continue in January. I have spoken on this often at the junior club, with only limited success. We did move the stronger kids into the quieter side room, so that helped. The younger kids mostly in the noisier larger room, where quiet isn’t the priority. It gives the more serious kids extra incentive to move up to the gold cards and the quiet room. But I would like to see a further reduction in horseplay and noise across the board. Discipline will move up the priority list in 2018.
A group of kids were playing around with the church phone system on Sunday. Somehow they managed to call a church official, which prompted a very irate church official to visit. The number must have been programmed into the phone system, otherwise how would they have reached a church official? Some members of this group have been identified and are members of MCC. We will be talking with them in January. We know some of what happened, but we will explore in more detail in January. If anyone knows of any details or wants to “come clean”, we invite you to email me over the Christmas break. Appropriate disciplinary action will follow in January which may include a suspension from the club. As a result of this phone incident, we cancelled the CYCC qualifier scheduled for January 20th to make peace with the Church. Actions do have consequences.
I had lunch with Gord this week and we discussed solutions for our kids behaviour problem. I suggested 4 possible policy changes for Mississauga Open 2018.
Limit Junior registration to 50% of total. So if we had 100 players, maximum 50 Juniors. I think once Junior participation rate goes above x%, maintaining discipline is harder. I haven’t found anyone else yet that thinks this is a good idea.
Eject Misbehaving Juniors from tournament. Send them packing. This idea has some support. I would refund the entry fee, but others say “no way”. And how many warnings do you give?
Keep a naughty kids list. If you’re on the list, your next entry fee is an extra $20. This idea has possibilities. We could even send it to Santa to add names to his naughty list. Okay, that’s too drastic.
Letters of apology. The bad kids will compose a letter of apology to both the organizers and other players. This is my personal favourite, I even added jokingly that we post them on chesstalk. But a more popular idea appears to be make them read it out loud in person at the tournament. Yikes.
We had our annual club meeting at Mississauga Club on Wednesday. This was a big topic of conversation. We debated a few ideas and thanks to Omar from SCC for attending. He had some good suggestions.
Anyway, I never want a repeat of this past weekend.
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