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    To Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad)/Gyan Awatrami, any parent of or former student of mine; or teaching colleague or Larry B.

    From a thread on WYCC 2011

    Originally posted by Michael Yip View Post
    The Question
    Should children be taught chess or coached in chess in a manner that emphasizes winning above all else?

    (a)I did not read the whole long and winding thread sorrry. I wish to state I do not believe that Jean is a whiner NOR mentally deluded for whatever reason.

    (b)Yes. I teach winning. How to win, the tools for winning, maximizing results, hard work, diligence, effort etc.

    I put no pressure on the kids to win and I don't want any kind of pressure from the parents either. I do the teaching and am responsible for the results. The kids/students pay attention and make the best moves they can.

    I don't care if the student actually does win, only that they try their absolute best. I tell the parents if they want fun they should get a babysitter/play partner or another teacher. I am not for them.

    ..(more)

    Michael Yip
    Previously stated(as part of a long discussion) was
    "...Then you say in the next paragraph that you "put no pressure on the kids to win". What a bunch of crap. If all that you are teaching them has to do with winning, then you are putting pressure on them to win. Period."-Paul Bonham

    May I ask you to speak on my behalf on what/how I teach and pressure from me?

    Thank you

    Michael Yip

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    Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

    I worked with Michael many years ago for CMA in Montreal. I never got the sense that he was obsessed with his students' results or became upset if they did poorly. He was a serious teacher and did demand that the students put in the effort, which is what I also do. Otherwise I am wasting both the parents' money and my time.
    "Tom is a well known racist, and like most of them he won't admit it, possibly even to himself." - Ed Seedhouse, October 4, 2020.

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    • #3
      Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

      Hi Tom

      Thanks. Any word on what happened to the Solomon Schecter triplets? Maybe I should ask Dave R

      Just curious.

      Mike

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      • #4
        Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

        And thanks for introducing to teaching and showing me how to be decent teacher in the first place. (and to Dave R and Frank T etc).

        Mike

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        • #5
          Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

          I am not totally sure what this is all about [too lazy to read all posts ] but in the 90s was at maybe 50 tournaments with Mike [as coaches ] and never ,not once did i see any evidence that he placed an unreasonable emphasis on winning . What i remember is Mike valued study and analysis and an honest effort to improve .

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          • #6
            Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

            Originally posted by Tom O'Donnell View Post
            I worked with Michael many years ago for CMA in Montreal. I never got the sense that he was obsessed with his students' results or became upset if they did poorly. He was a serious teacher and did demand that the students put in the effort, which is what I also do. Otherwise I am wasting both the parents' money and my time.
            First Tom, a question for you: if you are teaching a young kid, and the kid is putting in serious effort, lots of study and so on, but there is no improvement and the kid continues to make either outright blunders or just fails to ever put a plan together, do you go to the parents and tell them their kid is not suited to chess? If not, then what do you do?

            Michael's own words were that "I teach winning. How to win, the tools for winning, maximizing results, hard work, diligence, effort etc."

            No where there do I see words like "fun" or "good sportsmanship" or "creativity", nor anything about how to handle the kids that don't have an affinity for chess. No, it's all about maximizing results. And not all kids can maximize results in chess.

            It's a dangerous game, because kids egos can become very fragile if they are old enough to realize that they aren't "smart enough" for chess. What a chess teacher needs to do with kids like this is help the kid realize that there are other things besides chess, and get the parents to realize that their kid is in trouble and needs some other outlet: art, music, hockey, something totally different from chess.

            Being a chess teacher to kids is a very high level of responsibility, for the very reason that chess is a pure skill game and failure at chess can do damage to ego. Some kids can, but other kids can't handle that without help. Teaching chess skills alone is not enough. Who knows how many people have been damaged by chess at a very young age and are now adults in severe depression or other mental health problems such as addictions.

            IMO, chess is the most dangerous activity of all for kids to take seriously. At least we do have Bob Gillanders teaching the fun aspect.
            Only the rushing is heard...
            Onward flies the bird.

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            • #7
              Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

              Originally posted by Paul Bonham View Post
              First Tom, a question for you: if you are teaching a young kid, and the kid is putting in serious effort, lots of study and so on, but there is no improvement and the kid continues to make either outright blunders or just fails to ever put a plan together, do you go to the parents and tell them their kid is not suited to chess? If not, then what do you do?
              It's like in real school. Some kids progress faster than other and a one on one teacher is bringing the student along at his own pace. Some kids don't catch on as well as others and the rating system will reflect that.

              Kids can figure out pretty fast how they stack up against their peers.

              Over the years I've told lots of players they weren't good enough to play in events they wanted. Chess isn't a democracy. When it's time to invite players for an event the best players get the invite and the others get to watch.

              Some teachers are quite successful at teaching winning. They have the ability to bring the player to the next level.

              Of course, chess is a game where some talent and smarts is required.
              Gary Ruben
              CC - IA and SIM

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              • #8
                Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                Originally posted by Gary Ruben View Post
                It's like in real school. Some kids progress faster than other and a one on one teacher is bringing the student along at his own pace. Some kids don't catch on as well as others and the rating system will reflect that.

                Kids can figure out pretty fast how they stack up against their peers.

                Over the years I've told lots of players they weren't good enough to play in events they wanted. Chess isn't a democracy. When it's time to invite players for an event the best players get the invite and the others get to watch.

                Some teachers are quite successful at teaching winning. They have the ability to bring the player to the next level.

                Of course, chess is a game where some talent and smarts is required.
                There is too much emphasis on winning at too young of an age. These kids are fragile! Would you like it on your conscience if you select a kid to play because his/her rating is great, the kid has a terrible result, and the kid never recovers and ends up being a mental case? Or alternatively, the kid loves chess, is totally devoted to the game, but his/her rating isn't quite up to "medal" level and you don't select the kid, and the kid becomes a mental case?

                I'll say it again: the mental health of the children has to override medals! And this comes into the coaching too. Stop emphasizing winning and emphasize fun and creativity. Recognize that you aren't dealing with adults. I'm really glad to hear that Bob Gillanders is going in this direction.

                I know Gary that it is ingrained in you to think about performance and winning. That's fine for yourself, but don't impose it on kids.

                Finally, let's be real about one thing: if it's all about winning, we can all go home and give it up to the computers. Even a human World Chess Championshop doesn't mean anything anymore. If all we're going to teach is winning and maximizing results, just have kids play against computer engines, and see how much fun they have and how long they stick with the game.

                For kids at least, chess is supposed to be FUN.
                Only the rushing is heard...
                Onward flies the bird.

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                • #9
                  Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                  Originally posted by Paul Bonham View Post
                  For kids at least, chess is supposed to be FUN.
                  There are many other activities with a lot of fun like curling, volleyball, soccer, hockey. However these activities can be competitive sports too, where fun goes to the second plan, and EXCEL becomes a driving force. Chess is not an exception.

                  Michael Yip works with one group, R.Gillanders entertains others. Everybody is his zen.

                  There is more fun in after-the-game double-chess parties than in the tournament :D

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                  • #10
                    Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                    Originally posted by Paul Bonham View Post

                    I'll say it again: the mental health of the children has to override medals! And this comes into the coaching too. Stop emphasizing winning and emphasize fun and creativity. Recognize that you aren't dealing with adults. I'm really glad to hear that Bob Gillanders is going in this direction.
                    I love the way you leap from position to position. Why parents allow kids with these kind of problems to do competitive sports is not the problem of the opponents or the federations who probably don't even know the situation.

                    I take it you have qualifications in the mental health field and you'll tell us what they are.

                    Is Bob Gillanders running CFC rated events for the kids? Any time you run an event and one child comes first and wins while another ends up in last place there has been a competition where one child has tasted the fun of first place and another has tasted the fun of being last. I'd assume parents pay chess teachers to teach their children enough chess to taste the fun of first place.

                    Would you find a situation where a chess teacher provided a sandbox for the children to play preferable?

                    Do you know music lessons and competitions are competitive?

                    In any case, it's up to the parents what they want.
                    Gary Ruben
                    CC - IA and SIM

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                    • #11
                      Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                      Originally posted by Paul Bonham View Post
                      There is too much emphasis on winning at too young of an age. These kids are fragile! Would you like it on your conscience if you select a kid to play because his/her rating is great, the kid has a terrible result, and the kid never recovers and ends up being a mental case? Or alternatively, the kid loves chess, is totally devoted to the game, but his/her rating isn't quite up to "medal" level and you don't select the kid, and the kid becomes a mental case?

                      I'll say it again: the mental health of the children has to override medals! And this comes into the coaching too. Stop emphasizing winning and emphasize fun and creativity. Recognize that you aren't dealing with adults. I'm really glad to hear that Bob Gillanders is going in this direction.

                      I know Gary that it is ingrained in you to think about performance and winning. That's fine for yourself, but don't impose it on kids.

                      Finally, let's be real about one thing: if it's all about winning, we can all go home and give it up to the computers. Even a human World Chess Championshop doesn't mean anything anymore. If all we're going to teach is winning and maximizing results, just have kids play against computer engines, and see how much fun they have and how long they stick with the game.

                      For kids at least, chess is supposed to be FUN.

                      I've always thought chess was about losing, and my ego doesn't like losing. No matter how strong one's will and ego is, one will always lose a chessgame at some point. A kid should never be sent to a chess tournament if they haven't experienced losing. Knowing that's there's always stronger players (and now computers) out there helps to keep one's ego in check, recognizing one's limits, recognizing that other people can see different things in the same position, can understand better, have more experience with. We can never know everything. Chess is a struggle, every game presents different decisions to be made -- it's not a rubik's cube where only memorization works. Kids have to be taught to handle losses with dignity, to still enjoy the struggle and appreciate their opponent's knowledge and work. Chess is a dance, a social interaction, I can't learn chess by myself. I need others to confirm my ideas or straightened me out and challenge my foolishness.

                      Shake hands when you lose. Kids have to be taught to take responsibility for their moves, flawed decision making and bounce back. To ask the question 'What did I do wrong?' and learn something new.

                      And yet there needs to be enough winning going on to feel that there is some talent, some accomplishment, some lessons learned, some growth in ability. My ego loves winning, but winning is best when it is a struggle, a two-sided game, some new exploration and testing of ideas, not a routine system requiring no thinking, or gross blunder.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                        Originally posted by Paul Bonham View Post
                        First Tom, a question for you: if you are teaching a young kid, and the kid is putting in serious effort, lots of study and so on, but there is no improvement and the kid continues to make either outright blunders or just fails to ever put a plan together, do you go to the parents and tell them their kid is not suited to chess? If not, then what do you do? ...

                        I have never experienced a situation where a student puts in the effort, has the interest and the time, and yet doesn't improve, let's say at least to 1800. I have experienced situations where the child is interested in goofing off or is easily distracted during lessons, refusing to think but rather playing impulsively during games, not doing work, not showing interest, etc. With those kids I tell the parents that I don't think my teaching them is suitable, I explain why, and tell them that they are wasting their money and my time. And that's the end of the lessons. This is not a criticism of the student. Not every person is suited to sitting and thinking.

                        You grossly over-estimate the "mental problems" aspect of this. You do realize that throughout their lives they will be competing for grades, places on teams, scholarships, acceptance to schools, jobs, promotions, and partners, right? Shouldn't they learn to deal with failure when the stakes are merely a chess game and not something important?
                        "Tom is a well known racist, and like most of them he won't admit it, possibly even to himself." - Ed Seedhouse, October 4, 2020.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                          Originally posted by Tom O'Donnell View Post
                          I have never experienced a situation where a student puts in the effort, has the interest and the time, and yet doesn't improve, let's say at least to 1800. I have experienced situations where the child is interested in goofing off or is easily distracted during lessons, refusing to think but rather playing impulsively during games, not doing work, not showing interest, etc. With those kids I tell the parents that I don't think my teaching them is suitable, I explain why, and tell them that they are wasting their money and my time. And that's the end of the lessons. This is not a criticism of the student. Not every person is suited to sitting and thinking.

                          You grossly over-estimate the "mental problems" aspect of this. You do realize that throughout their lives they will be competing for grades, places on teams, scholarships, acceptance to schools, jobs, promotions, and partners, right? Shouldn't they learn to deal with failure when the stakes are merely a chess game and not something important?
                          YES!!!! And if you've been paying attention, that is exactly what I'm stressing.

                          I didn't say let's take all winning and losing out of chess. I didn't say let's just declare every game a draw. I'm saying the chess coaches need to pay attention to the losers, and as you wrote, help them deal with failure.

                          As long as there is one kid who might become a mental derelict due to failure in chess -- and there will always be that one kid -- there is NO over-estimating the mental problems aspect of this. I find the fact that you would state otherwise very disturbing. Even if you haven't seen a case of this, you have to acknowledge that such cases can and most likely do exist. Which means you, as a chess teacher, incorporate that into your sense of responsibility.

                          Otherwise... don't be a chess teacher. Unless, of course, the money overrides any concern for the kids.
                          Only the rushing is heard...
                          Onward flies the bird.

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                          • #14
                            Re: Calling Mr Glen Lee(Jonah Lee's dad) or any parent or former student of Mine

                            Originally posted by Paul Bonham View Post
                            First Tom, a question for you: if you are teaching a young kid, and the kid is putting in serious effort, lots of study and so on, but there is no improvement and the kid continues to make either outright blunders or just fails to ever put a plan together, do you go to the parents and tell them their kid is not suited to chess? If not, then what do you do?

                            Michael's own words were that "I teach winning. How to win, the tools for winning, maximizing results, hard work, diligence, effort etc."

                            No where there do I see words like "fun" or "good sportsmanship" or "creativity", nor anything about how to handle the kids that don't have an affinity for chess. No, it's all about maximizing results. And not all kids can maximize results in chess.

                            It's a dangerous game, because kids egos can become very fragile if they are old enough to realize that they aren't "smart enough" for chess. What a chess teacher needs to do with kids like this is help the kid realize that there are other things besides chess, and get the parents to realize that their kid is in trouble and needs some other outlet: art, music, hockey, something totally different from chess.

                            Being a chess teacher to kids is a very high level of responsibility, for the very reason that chess is a pure skill game and failure at chess can do damage to ego. Some kids can, but other kids can't handle that without help. Teaching chess skills alone is not enough. Who knows how many people have been damaged by chess at a very young age and are now adults in severe depression or other mental health problems such as addictions.

                            IMO, chess is the most dangerous activity of all for kids to take seriously. At least we do have Bob Gillanders teaching the fun aspect.
                            How do you teach fun?

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